Tarra Stubbins | Celebrity Lifestyle Coach - Mastering Time Management and Goal Setting

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Hey everybody.

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We're talking to Tara Stubbins today.

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What an amazing woman She is a master of lifestyle and time management

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coaching with a rich history of working alongside celebrities for over 20 years.

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She has some incredible stories from her adventures on the road,

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learning from the very best.

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She's not only an expert in her field, but also a great new friend of mine.

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You don't want to miss this incredible conversation.

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Welcome, welcome, welcome.

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I am Dallas Burnett, sitting in my 1905 Koch Brothers

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Barber Chair in Thrive Studios.

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But more importantly, we have a great guest today.

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She's a seasoned expert in lifestyle and time management.

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Tara Stubbins joins us with her incredible experiences with two decades

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on the road with celebrities like.

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Mick Jagger.

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Are you kidding me?

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Mick Jagger.

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You hung out with Mick.

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Jagger.

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All right, we gotta learn from our experiences.

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Welcome to the show, Tara.

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Thanks so much for having me.

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I'm so excited to be here.

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What an intro like is everyone up and dancing?

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Oh my goodness.

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We like having fun on the last 10% for sure.

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Yes, I love it.

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It's like a massive rock concert bringing me back to my roots.

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I love it.

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Well, now we've got to know, because you have had, you

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just had some tremendous experiences and us seeing so many things on

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the road hanging out with all these celebrities, and so we're real excited

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to hear some of your experiences.

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But first, I just thought that everybody would enjoy this.

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this little short story because you really did hang out with Mick Jagger and it's

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not like it was just, just at a concert.

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he actually really helped you out a little bit.

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So tell us your Mick Jagger story.

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He did.

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So a little bit of backstory.

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I, have been honored and blessed in life and have been able to work

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alongside some amazing people.

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And one of them has been Mick Jagger.

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I spent eight years on the road with him as his personal and executive assistant

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traveling everywhere he went for those big, massive rock and roll shows.

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and it's actually really interesting.

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So the first kind of world tour I did with him, I was actually engaged at the time

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and, my now husband, so not the person I was engaged to, but somebody different

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was also out on, the Rolling Stones tour.

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He was in charge of the lighting, running the light shows and designing it.

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So we, and he was actually married at the time.

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and we knew each other.

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We, like everyone on the crew knows each other.

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We were friendly.

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The tour ended, we went our separate ways.

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I went off and did another small tour.

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actually he went off and did a Barney tour, which I find hilarious.

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Going from the rolling Stones to Barney.

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and right,

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That's awesome.

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and they need lighting too, I guess.

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and then we, I ended up not getting, married, calling off the engagement.

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And on the Barney tour he actually ended up getting a divorce.

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and we both came back together.

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Most of the crew came back together on, the next Stones tour.

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And apparently I was not the cheery, happy person that you see today.

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I was pretty cranky at the time and there was this one instance we

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were in, San Francisco actually.

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And usually when they did two shows back-to-back.

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So night after, one night after the next we would do, a big party at

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the, after the first show backstage.

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because we didn't have to like load out the show and move on to the next city.

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We were all just staying there.

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So we had this massive party and I had to organize it and it was

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a little bit last-minute and.

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Mick kept changing his mind on what he wanted.

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He wanted clam bakes and then he didn't want them, and all of these things.

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So I was extremely frustrated and cranky, and all I wanted to do was just go

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home, back to the hotel and go to sleep.

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And so we were at the party and I was just making sure everything was okay,

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and I was gonna get ready to leave.

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And Nick comes up to me and he's you are really cranky.

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Come with me.

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And he grabbed my hand and he walked me through the party

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and he brought me up to Greg.

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And he was like, you are really cranky too.

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You're both cranky.

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Figure it out.

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And that was 18 years ago.

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I love that.

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That's so awesome.

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That's hilarious.

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Oh my

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it.

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you figured it out 18 years ago that you figured it out.

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Wow.

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What a story.

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I, that's amazing that you spent so much time with them on tour and that

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particular, like Mick, Jagger in particular, like, I mean, you see.

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rock bands, you see rock artists and they kind of go and some of

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'em have long, short careers and some of 'em have very long careers.

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But then it's like the rolling Stones, they're on another level.

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it's his, it's fascinating, when you were with him and around them for that

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period of time and seeing how they approach, I don't know, like touring and.

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Life that had to be a tremendous, there had to be some tremendous

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things that you picked up from that.

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it's true.

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I do laugh at the tour, the rolling Stones tour that's coming out right now, which

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is sponsored by AARP, which I find so fitting and wonderful because they are

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in that age bracket where it should be.

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I'm not on that tour.

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I'm actually happy I'm not, but I just find it hilarious

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every time I think about it.

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funny.

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when I was, I just wanna tell a little story for a second that

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will actually answer your question.

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when I was younger, I had really young, I had a shirt that said,

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remember me, I'm going to be a star.

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And I wore that shirt everywhere to the point where I disintegrated.

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I.

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Wish I still had it today.

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but the problem way back then was that I really wanted to, I really thought

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that being a star in my, like very young brain was being a rock star.

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up there on the stage, I.

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Playing guitar, singing, dancing, being that rock star performer, I didn't

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really understand that there was anything else in the world that was a star.

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And I have very little musical talent.

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I do have this guitar behind me.

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As I said before, I sounds like a dying animal.

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When I play it.

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I'm not very good at it.

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but I, I.

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So I thought that I was just going to be like, I'm never going

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to achieve any of my dreams.

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I might as well just, throw them out.

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I'm never gonna make anything of my life that sucks type thing.

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but for some reason, and I tell this story a lot, for some reason I, held

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onto a little bit of that dream.

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I didn't.

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Throw it all away.

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I held onto a very small percentage of it, and I would forget about it for,

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days, weeks, months, at a time until those like pivotal moments in life came

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up where you had to make those decisions.

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And I would be like, oh yeah, I wanted to be a star.

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Oh, I still can't sing and I still can't dance.

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but yeah, like maybe there's something here.

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and it's how I was able to form my life into working with celebrities.

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So maybe I wasn't like, that the celebrity on the stage, but I

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was still surrounded by them for.

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Pretty much all of my working career, and because I was never that person up on the

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stage singing, dancing, performing, I was always fascinated as to like, why them?

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Why Mick Jagger, why Drake?

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Why Lady Gaga?

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Why are these people celebrities and successful and not.

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Other person on the, on the street.

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so when I've been, when I've been working with them, I've always been like

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a sponge, if you will, of, like, why?

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Why them?

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What are they doing in their day to day?

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What are they doing to become this huge success?

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So working with people again, like Mick Jagger, I was, obviously helping

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him throughout his day to day, but I was also a sponge and, what was he

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doing exactly on a day to day too?

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Aer to sustain.

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again, not a lot of bands have been in the public eye for 60 years.

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60 plus years with the Stones, So what actually were they

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doing to make this possible?

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Wow.

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Wow.

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That's awesome.

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I love that story.

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I love your perspective too, and I love that, I love how you, I.

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How you'd never lost your kind of original desire.

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And, you're like the T-shirt, I want the T-shirt, and you, even though

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the T-shirt wore out, that you just said, okay, maybe my definition

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of what a star is was inaccurate.

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But that doesn't necessarily mean I don't wanna be a star.

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I just maybe that there's more to it than what I originally

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intended and or thought about.

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I think that's really cool.

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And I think that's, I think that's really neat how you continually, pursued

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that, that venue of celebrities and music and all these things and you

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were a part of something, really big, much bigger than you, but it was, you

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were adding to it and creating in it.

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So now Tara, you've been have a really neat story working with all these

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celebrities and going on tour and Mick Jagger and you're getting introduced

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to your husband, but that's really.

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different than what you're doing now.

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You're, you've moved into this kind of time management expert

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and helping lifestyle in terms of coaching and things like that.

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So can you tell us a little bit about the transition?

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You own your own business now.

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Tell us the transition, how you go from, celebrity, rock star touring people to

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time management, lifestyle coaching.

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Yeah, so there was this one time, not with, Mick, Jagger

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and the rolling Stones with another, musician that I can't name names,

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but, we were in, Shanghai actually.

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And one of his crazy requests every time he traveled was that he wanted

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his toothbrush to be sanitized in a hotel industrial dishwasher.

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So every time the toothbrush came out of the suitcase.

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I had to take it downstairs and to like back of house and

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put it through the dishwasher

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wait a minute.

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it was this musician's, it was their per, this person's like

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literal, it was their toothbrush.

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It wasn't like you went out and got a toothbrush and sanitized it.

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It was their toothbrush and you had to Oh, wow.

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So I get asked all the time, one, why I didn't just run it

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under hot water and pretend that I put it under the dish in the dishwasher.

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and I'm like, well, I guess you know, my, I'm too honest.

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So I did it.

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and then I always get asked why I didn't just buy a new toothbrush or an

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electric toothbrush, so I have no idea.

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I learned a very long time ago that you never ask rock stars why.

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They do some crazy stuff that you just don't wanna know.

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So I don't ask why I just do.

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but yeah, so this crazy request, every hotel we would go to, I would

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have to go and have this discussion with, the Baca house staff.

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And a lot of times we had stayed in the hotels before,

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so they knew we were coming.

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They recognized me.

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They were like, here comes this crazy lady with a toothbrush again.

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But we were in Shanghai and we'd never stayed in this hotel before.

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It was, fairly new, very expensive, like presidential suites, the whole thing.

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And I was trying to communicate in a language that I didn't speak, they

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didn't speak English, that I had to put this toothbrush in their dishwasher.

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And they were looking at me like I had three heads.

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It was probably one of the most awkward experiences of my life, and

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I remember standing there with this brush in hand thinking, there's

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gotta be more to life than this.

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And that was my like, aha moment.

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Where realized that I still absolutely love helping people.

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I've, believe that I've been put on this planet to help others succeed, and I am

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still fascinated with success and building success and what brings about success.

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But I just wanted to help more than one crazy rock star at a time.

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I love it.

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You're expand, you're, you at that moment with the toothbrush,

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it just expanded your horizons.

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No longer am I just working with one crazy rock star, I can expand.

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I love that.

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You know though, I've heard the stories about, I want all the.

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certain colored M&M's taken outta the bag, and I need, but I've never,

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man, I've never heard, I want my toothbrush sanitized in the hotel.

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Dishwasher.

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Yeah, it's a good one.

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It's a

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Oh.

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A fun, another fun one that I had to do, on the road with the

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Stones is Jagger always wanted his.

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Hotel rooms painted a very specific, shade of beige.

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So every city, every hotel room he stayed in, whether it was one

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night or two or three, he was never in a hotel room for very long.

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It had to be painted this very specific shade of beige.

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So he had to go in a few days early, get the painters, do the painting.

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It couldn't smell like paint when he was in it.

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and there was this time we were in, what was then Mumbai, I

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don't think it's Mumbai anymore.

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And we were in a very old hotel and it had like ancient wallpaper, ancient

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gold leaf wallpaper on the walls, and we took that sucker down and we painted the

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walls beige, and then we put it back up.

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But yeah.

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So he is serious about some beige walls

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He's serious about his beige.

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When I moved into my new home, a couple of years ago, all the walls were just

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like construction grade, beige, and I was like, oh no, this is going.

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I have PTSD.

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We are not having beige in the house.

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It was the

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put up some reds or greens or yellow.

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That doesn't matter.

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Let's go.

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Just not beige.

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I've had enough beige.

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Oh.

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No beige.

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yeah.

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So I had that, aha moment and I finished the tour.

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I came off the road and I was like, I'm gonna open a business where I can help.

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More than one rock star at a time.

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and because I had the experience as like a personal assistant, I opened

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up a personal concierge business where I was helping high net worth, high

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profile individuals, basically run their households in a way that I was running,

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their lives out on the road basically.

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the business is actually still in business today.

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I.

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Still help a number of, celebrity clients.

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I opened it in 2007, and again with absolutely zero

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business background at all.

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I had no idea what I was doing.

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and, I actually remember back in 2007, the thing to do was put, advertisements

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in the Yellow Pages and I, Yeah, it.

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I remember saving up so much money so I could put this like

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big ad in the yellow pages.

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One, not thinking that like my target market is extremely wealthy

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people, they're not opening the yellow pages and someone they find.

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anyway, and two, I remember the day the Yellow pages got, delivered.

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I sat by my phone a landline at that point.

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I sat by it and I waited.

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'cause I thought, the yellow pages have been delivered.

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I'm gonna get so many calls

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in the calls.

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They're just gonna start rolling in.

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Yep.

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I did not get one call from that Yellow Pages ad.

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Not that day, not any day.

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but yeah, it was a big learning experience for me because again,

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like zero, like I was a dirty roadie.

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I had no idea what I was doing.

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but I did these experiments.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:17:46

I wasn't.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:17:47

Shy, I jumped all in and, I learned from what I failed at,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:17:53

by able to do what was right.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:17:55

And there was this one moment where I always craved like a

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:00

network, a community of people.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:03

Me because there wasn't really the startup community or entrepreneur

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:08

community as there is now.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:10

there was this like one guy who did lunch and learns at like city hall.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:14

It was very weird to like mortgage brokers.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:19

so I was like, I really want.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:21

People like me.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:22

and when the first co-working space opened, I was like

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:26

the second person to join.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:28

I volunteered at the front desk.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:31

I like ran their events.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:34

I just immersed myself into the community 'cause I was just.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:38

So excited to, be part and surrounded by other people like me.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:43

They did exist, and they all became my friends and I started realizing

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:48

that they would, a lot of people would get to a certain point of success

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:53

and they couldn't get over that hump.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:18:56

And I started realizing that it was because they didn't have that

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:00

strategic support behind them.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:02

because of my, Assistant background, I realized that they really needed,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:06

not their sister or cousin, helping them with bookkeeping tasks, but they

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:11

really needed that strategic support.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:14

So that's where the idea of the second business.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:17

a fractional executive assistant business came in where I wanted to

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:21

really just help people in my community, with executive assistant support and

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:27

really strategic support, be able to like, get over that hump of success.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:31

and really everything that I've done ever.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:34

Really since, like way back in my first career, my first job has always been

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:40

like, how can I just help people be better at their dreams and achieve their goals

Tarra Stubbins: 00:19:46

and take like those sponge moments and really be able to help others with it?

Dallas Burnett: 00:19:51

Oh, that is so good.

Dallas Burnett: 00:19:53

I love your progression then.

Dallas Burnett: 00:19:54

Thank you for just being honest I love it where you're just like, man, I saved

Dallas Burnett: 00:19:57

up and just took a swing at the yellow pages and then just, man, it didn't

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:01

work out, but it was a great education and that's, that's how we do it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:04

That's entrepreneurship.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:05

And so I love how you were feeling the need and how you

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:07

saw that and you wanted to help.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:09

Help establish what you were doing on the road with people in their lives.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:13

and now with the fractional, executive assistant, I love how

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:16

you talk about strategic, support.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:18

And I love how you talk about having seen it where a lot of people, especially

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:22

in the community that you are a part of and the entrepreneurial community,

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:25

never seem to achieve their goals.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:26

And I think that is a true thing.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:28

I think if you are.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:30

If you are, if you're a startup, if you're an entrepreneur, your goal is not

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:34

to be the, it's so easy because you're everything to everybody in the beginning.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:38

But your goal is to move through that about as fast as you can and then start

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:41

building your team and, and you're a big part of that with your new organization.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:45

I was just talking because it's so important.

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:47

We were just talking to a client today, and we were just talking to them and they

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:51

are trying to construct around their, they have different operations and they're

Dallas Burnett: 00:20:56

growing at different levels and different ways, and so they're literally looking.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:00

At it from the standpoint of how you manage your time.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:02

and they would say, okay, you're at this stage.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:04

if you're doing these types of activities and you're splitting up your time

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:07

this way, you're like the first stage.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:09

And then just looking at it through the lens of time, it's a really amazing, so

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:14

you're very ahead of the curve on that when you're realizing that people, how

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:18

they manage their time and how supported they are so that they can delegate

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:22

these things off is, super huge.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:25

Now, I.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:26

Just after the first of the year, and I know that I've got a lot

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:31

of listeners that's made because they're listeners of the last 10%.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:36

They are striving for excellence in their life.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:38

They have probably created or will create or in the process of creating some goals

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:44

and they're probably looking at their year saying, what's my 2024 looking like?

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:48

Now we have you as a time management expert, lifestyle management

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:52

expert, you are helping some really.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:56

High net worth individuals manage their life.

Dallas Burnett: 00:21:59

So tell us a little bit about your approach and what are some things that

Dallas Burnett: 00:22:05

you feel like we could use in this new year, as it relates to time management?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:10

I have so many thoughts.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:12

How many hours do you have?

Dallas Burnett: 00:22:16

I love it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:22:17

That's awesome.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:18

Don't take.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:19

I'll take all your time on time management.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:22

I'm very passionate about a few aspects of time management.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:25

one is obviously, we have the new year.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:28

People are setting resolutions, but people are already probably failing at

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:33

their resolutions right now, and I'm a.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:36

Massive believer in setting goals and setting stretch goals.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:41

I find those very important.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:42

Not just an easy goal that we can hit, but I'm not a believer in resolutions.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:47

they're, have like a.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:49

All-or-nothing mentality.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:52

you always set too many of them.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:55

You have unrealistic expectations that you're gonna be able to do all these

Tarra Stubbins: 00:22:59

things from day one for 365 days a year.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:03

external influences come in that start, changing the way you can do things.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:09

There's just so many reasons why resolutions beat us

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:12

up as human beings really.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:14

but setting a goal.

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:16

and let me jump in.

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:17

So how do you, how would you describe the difference?

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:20

'cause I hear what you're saying.

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:21

I know where you're going, but how would you describe the difference in, 'cause

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:25

you're for goal setting, but you're not really about resolution making.

Dallas Burnett: 00:23:28

So tell us how you would describe the difference between those two.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:32

Yeah, so I believe personally when people set

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:36

resolutions, they set all these things to get to an end goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:40

So their resolution isn't say.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:43

I wanna make a million dollars.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:45

It's, I sure I wanna make a million dollars at the end of the year, but

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:49

I also wanna walk 10,000 steps a day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:52

I wanna read 20 pages.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:54

I wanna wake up at five A.M.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:56

I wanna drink this water.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:23:58

I want to make a hundred sales calls a day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:00

So they set all these things, which they.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:03

Think are going to actually help them get to this end goal

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:07

or their end like resolution.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:09

and like their resolutions are actually like the things they're

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:12

going to do on a day-to-day basis.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:15

which I find is like great on January 1st or second when you wake up.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:20

But like you're exhausted by trying to fit all those things into your right,

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:27

it's saying this is the, this is what I resolved

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:30

to do on, in a perfect day.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:32

And that is going to last for the next 365 days.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:35

There's gonna be no hiccups there.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:37

No schedule delays, no traffic jams.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:39

It's all green lights from here, and this is my perfect life and my activities.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:43

And even if I did those perfect things every day, like you said,

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:46

I would be completely exhausted after about the fifth day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:49

Yeah,

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:49

it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:49

Yeah, that's right.

Dallas Burnett: 00:24:50

That's so

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:51

and I think also people who set resolutions set like big goals,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:24:55

so Or like big, not even goals, but I'm going to live a healthier 2024.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:00

that's great, but it's really hard to like, manage and track

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:05

how you're going to live.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:07

A healthier 2024 or 2024 is going to be the best year for my business.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:13

great, but how is that?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:15

So I think how we determine resolutions and qualify them is a

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:21

lot different than actually setting.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:24

Goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:25

So my goal for 2024 is to make a million dollars.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:30

Great.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:30

So what I'd like to do then is to make monthly goals, or monthly

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:35

habits or monthly challenges to help me get to that end goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:42

So million dollars at the end of the year.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:45

That's great.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:46

I'm probably not going to start the year at eighty-Three, 3, 3, 3.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:51

What?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:51

We have to hit thousand to get to that million, like right off the bat.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:56

So it has to be crude over the years.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:25:58

But, okay, so what are the habits that I'm going to do in January

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:03

to help me set myself up for success for 20, like that end goal?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:08

Is it making sure that I wake up at five A.M.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:12

so I can own my own like power hour of focus?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:15

Great.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:16

Let's concentrate on that for January then.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:19

What are we now that we've built that habit?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:22

What are we going to do in February?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:25

Is it going to be, I'm going to be determined to send a

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:28

hundred cold emails a day?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:30

Great.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:31

So now we're waking up at five A.M.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:33

and we're sending a hundred cold emails a day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:35

Okay, what are we now doing in March?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:37

So you build on the habit so you can actually create that lifestyle that you

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:42

wanna create, and it does so many things.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:45

I am, again, I've been this kind of sponge with these really successful people,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:50

and I've noticed that one thing that sets them apart from everyone else is

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:55

that they create their own motivation.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:26:57

So a lot of us sit back and wait for that lightning strike to happen.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:02

For us to feel ready for us to be, a hundred percent confident, for us to be

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:07

having a good day, to have the energy to start something or to do something.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:12

But successful people just do it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:15

I like to say, just do the thing.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:17

No matter how they're feeling, no matter how tired they are, they

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:22

have built the habit to just do it and to create their own motivation.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:27

So if you are, Forming a simple habit in January, and you actually

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:32

succeed at forming that habit.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:34

You can create your own motivation and go, okay, I did this.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:37

Now let's do February.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:39

Like I got this now I got March, and you're actually setting yourself

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:42

up for success at the end of the year and actually hitting your goal

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:47

rather than, I'm going to walk 10,000 steps, like you can do all of that

Tarra Stubbins: 00:27:51

by December, just not on January 3rd.

Dallas Burnett: 00:27:55

I cannot tell you how encouraging hearing you describe all

Dallas Burnett: 00:27:59

those things is because it's so close.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:02

Like when we engage in coaching, in our program, in our scaffolding,

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:06

one of the things we do is it's a monthly commitment for improvement,

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:09

and we talk about it like one in 30.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:11

If I can get 1% in the next 30 days.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:14

I'm happy with that if I can move the needle 1%.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:17

So if that's a micro movement, but if I can do that and sustain it, man,

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:21

I'll take that any day over this big, massive thing that I'm just gonna

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:26

not be able to do in three months.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:27

I'm just gonna give up and walk away from it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:29

And another thing, I love how you described and I think that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:32

So many times we miss this.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:35

And I know I'm a big fan of goal setting too.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:37

So this is you're speaking my language.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:38

And so I love how you talk about being able to, to really, make

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:42

it specific and measurable.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:43

And that's some of the things that we talk about in commitments.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:45

If you're gonna commit to something, you have to be specific and you

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:48

have to be able to measure it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:49

Even if you don't, you have to be able to just to wrap your head around it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:52

but I really liked what you talked about.

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:54

Even if you're specific and even if it's measurable, you gotta

Dallas Burnett: 00:28:59

ask yourself the questions.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:00

Tara said it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:01

You have to say, what habits are going to be required to accomplish this task?

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:08

And I think that's a big area of goal setting.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:12

People overlook and they think that if they just do something and whatever, they

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:17

put the goal down, they're gonna get it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:18

But they don't peel the onion just another layer down and say, no,

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:22

what is the, what does that mean?

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:24

I love what you said about defining habits and routines and we're very

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:27

passionate about routines and habits.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:29

Really getting your kind of head , wrapped around what those things are that

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:32

would help you accomplish your goal.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:34

I think that's really great.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:35

And I also love, you talked about motivation, like self-motivating, like

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:39

I, I think that's fascinating and.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:43

I really think that's interesting.

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:44

do you have any examples of that, as that come to mind?

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:47

as you think through your experiences with some of these, touring musicians

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:51

or celebrities or anything, do you have any specific examples

Dallas Burnett: 00:29:54

you could share with us on that?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:29:56

I definitely do.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:29:57

so I always think of.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:00

And maybe we won't share this with this particular person, but,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:04

so I work with, I'm Canadian, so I of course work with Drake.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:10

I think every Canadian works with Drake in some form of, yeah, some level.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:15

especially people based outta Toronto.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:17

but I like Drake.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:20

Great guy.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:20

I don't know if I'm big fan of his music, so don't tell him that.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:24

But, Don't get me fired over

Dallas Burnett: 00:30:27

we want, yeah.

Dallas Burnett: 00:30:28

Yeah.

Dallas Burnett: 00:30:28

We wanna, that's so funny.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:30

um, but I always think like, why is Drake like the most famous,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:38

like Canadian, musician, artist right now?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:42

is he really that much better than.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:46

Anybody else, and I have to say it is because of his extreme dedication

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:52

and focus on like his goal and what he is doing to get to that goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:30:59

And he also runs his staff that way too.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:01

So he'll set a goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:03

He'll make sure everybody knows what that goal is, and if you are not

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:07

on board and striving as hard as he is or harder to help him and the

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:13

team get to that goal, you are out.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:16

He has no use for you.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:18

So yes, it's a bit of tough love, but he has the like.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:23

Biggest focus and dedication I have ever seen to setting a goal and actually

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:31

hitting it no matter what it is.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:33

And it can be the biggest stretch goal out there.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:37

And everyone's you are nuts.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:38

There is no way we are going to do it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:41

And he does because of the habits he does on a day-to-Day basis.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:46

And just that self-discipline of he can be having a horrible

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:51

day, not in a great mood.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:53

And everyone can say, he's Drake, he has millions and billions of dollars.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:57

Like, why is he in a bad mood?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:31:58

But, people are human.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:00

They have bad days.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:01

and it's not about the money that he throws at the problem,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:04

it's not about his staff.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:06

it really is about like the focus and determination he has.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:12

To hitting those end goals and that self-discipline.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:17

I also think of, athletes as well, so professional athletes,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:21

they have their end goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:22

Their focus is winning the gold medal, the Super Bowl being the fastest,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:27

the strongest, whatever it is.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:29

And whatever they do on a day-to-Day basis is a hundred

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:33

percent aligned with that end goal.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:37

And they're, focused, they spend 18 hours a day training.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:40

Now, I'm not saying that you have to work 18 hours a day to be a success,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:44

but what I am saying is that you need to make sure that whatever hours

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:48

of the day that you are working, they better be aligned with your.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:54

End goal, So again, I also like to use this example of we all know

Tarra Stubbins: 00:32:59

how to live a healthy lifestyle.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:00

It's not rocket science, right?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:03

We all know how to eat healthy.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:04

We all know that we have to exercise a little bit.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:06

We have to drink water.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:07

Like it's, we do.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:09

We all do it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:10

No, I just had a chocolate, like a piece of chocolate, like a lot

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:14

of pieces of chocolate, right?

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:17

it's confession on the last 10%.

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:18

I love it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:21

the people who actually live those healthy

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:24

lifestyles, they're just forming the habits that we have decided aren't

Tarra Stubbins: 00:33:28

necessarily, something that we wanna work towards in our goals, our own

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:33

mm

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:34

I think that's, I think that's awesome.

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:37

And I think that if you're listening.

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:39

You're already feeling overwhelmed and you feel bad because you're not living

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:43

at that level of discipline and focus.

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:45

I don't miss the point, I think Tara is saying, she's not saying that you need

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:50

to live at the same level of focus as a major league baseball player or Drake.

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:54

What she is saying though is that the level of focus and intensity

Dallas Burnett: 00:33:58

that you have towards a very clear.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:00

Picture of what you're trying to create definitely contributes to

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:05

the movement in that direction and if not achievement of it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:09

So I think that's really interesting.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:11

I do think too, I liked what you talked about, his expectations for

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:15

his team and if you're coaching your team, Tara spoke about Drake and said

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:20

yes, he, the reason that his team.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:23

Moved towards.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:25

His goal was because he had really good clarity and was, you said it, you

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:31

were like, he knows what he wants and he tells everybody, this is the goal.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:35

Let's be real clear about this.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:37

You're gonna help me get there.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:38

And so it a lot of times.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:40

As a team, if we're leading or coaching a team, when we're not getting that

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:44

progress towards that, one of the reasons is that we haven't clearly

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:48

defined what it is that we're supposed to be doing and going for, and what

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:53

each person on the team is there to do.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:55

And I think.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:56

with Drake, he's got all these specialists around him.

Dallas Burnett: 00:34:58

So they kind of are experts in their own field.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:00

So they know their deal, what they bring to the table.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:02

But he is the one that's, he's the only one that can tell everybody,

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:06

this is what Drake wants.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:07

This is where we're going.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:08

And so that's his role in the whole picture.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:10

So I think if you're coaching and leading a team, that one of the

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:13

things you can take away from what Tara just said is that we need to,

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:17

if you think you've been clear.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:19

Go back and be clear some more.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:21

You can't over communicate clarity to your team members.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:24

And what we're trying to do is pull them into alignment with what we're doing.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:27

We're wanting them.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:28

Now Drake, he's a global celebrity and so when you know if you wanna be on his team,

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:34

you have to be in alignment immediately.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:35

And sometimes you might be managing a team that's like.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:38

maybe I've got alignment or maybe I don't, but you've got to, you've

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:40

gotta inspire those people to come in alignment so that you can get the goal.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:43

So I think, man, I think those are great examples.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:45

Oh man.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:46

Working with Drake, going, hanging out with Mick Jagger.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:50

Oh, this is fun stuff.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:51

This is good.

Dallas Burnett: 00:35:52

This is, you got a lot of great stories.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:35:54

I also wanna say too, for anyone that's being over that

Tarra Stubbins: 00:35:58

may seem overwhelmed, I think that we actually as a society complicate

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:04

success and goal-setting and time management, and daily routines.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:10

I.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:10

One of, my biggest pet peeves is people always ask me, what celebrity, morning

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:15

routine do you copy for success?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:17

And what they do isn't necessarily going to help me.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:22

As Tara, like I have my own life and my own goals.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:26

and I don't like it when people, read.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:29

like these books for massively successful CEOs and they try to like,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:34

copy them and get up at four A.M.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:36

and play a round of or two A.M.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:38

and play a round of golf and eat this.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:41

And it's these people are doing this because they have the luxury of time

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:46

to, have these kind of crazy schedules.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:49

But when they were building their success, they actually weren't.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:52

Doing this, and I've seen successful people, their morning routines are sure to

Tarra Stubbins: 00:36:58

work out, to get up early, to eat healthy.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:00

But I've seen other really successful people whose morning routines are

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:04

to sit down and smoke a cigar and drink a bottle of Jack Daniel's.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:10

there's just,

Dallas Burnett: 00:37:13

Yeah, you don't see that on the, you don't see that on the

Dallas Burnett: 00:37:16

cover of whatever workout magazine.

Dallas Burnett: 00:37:19

my morning routine, I'm the CEO of x Fortune 500 gram.

Dallas Burnett: 00:37:22

My morning routine is to get up, smoke a cigar, and drink a bottle of Jack.

Dallas Burnett: 00:37:25

That's, uh, hilarious, but it's true.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:28

successful, right?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:29

So I think when we're trying to set, and our own goals, one, we

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:34

have to be kind to ourselves.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:35

So there's not gonna be every single day of the year where we

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:38

are going to be able to do whatever habit it is we're trying to form.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:42

there's, we're gonna have bad days, we're gonna have bad months,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:45

we're gonna have bad years.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:46

but as long as we're continuing, as you said, to move the needle a little bit on,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:51

whatever that goal is, I also really think that, there's, like we can spend too much

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:57

time kind of planning for the future.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:37:59

So when I make that million dollars, I'm going to be happy or I'm going

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:04

to do this, but There's all this life that we need to live now.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:09

So I like to think of time management as what am I doing today?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:13

So I can say that I've lived the best day that I possibly can today.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:18

Sure.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:18

It might be a hard day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:19

Sure.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:19

I may have some angry clients or angry staff or, but have I lived today the

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:26

way that I set out to live today?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:28

that type of thing.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:29

because yeah, life's too short to be like.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:31

When I make that million dollars, I'm gonna be happy When I build that big

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:34

business, I'm gonna be happy When I have this big team, then I'm going to be happy.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:38:39

you're just gonna wish your life away.

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:41

I think that is so much wisdom coming from someone who

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:45

has been around all of that, who has seen behind the curtain and see,

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:49

what, high net worth individuals on a global scale, you know how they live.

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:54

And then to be able to come back and say, Hey, yeah, by the way, if you can

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:57

live your day the way you wanna live it,

Dallas Burnett: 00:38:58

that's success, and I think that's very important.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:02

I do think that when you're talking about that, it's very important that

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:05

we don't define success like you are saying, on, we don't define our

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:11

success on someone else's success.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:13

We don't put ours on them.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:14

So their success is their success.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:16

That doesn't necessarily.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:17

Ha have to be ours as well, so if somebody else goes and make, makes

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:21

a million dollars or running a company or is a rock star, it's kinda

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:24

like you were saying before, star.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:27

I had this in my mind, but that word was bigger than what I thought it was.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:31

And I think some people have a small definition.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:33

It's a very small window of success, and they define success a very narrow way.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:38

And they point to somebody that they think is what they want.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:41

I want this, I want fame, or I want, whatever money.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:45

And that is their small definition of success.

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:47

But I think what you're saying, I think very wisely is you need to expand that

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:51

definition a little bit and really turn it around and look in the mirror

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:54

and say, what does that look like?

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:55

What does that look like to me?

Dallas Burnett: 00:39:57

And I think that helps you live a better life, So I agree, man.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:00

That's good stuff.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:01

That's good stuff.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:01

All right.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:02

I need to ask you, we, because that kind of gets into what my next question is.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:07

We talked a little bit about, the focus and intensity and how to set goals

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:11

and man, that's really good stuff.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:12

I think everybody's gonna really enjoy that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:14

But what we haven't talked about is any common mistakes.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:17

Actually, you mentioned one before, people over, setting two big, maybe

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:21

setting resolutions that lack clarity.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:23

But is there any other time management mistakes or lifestyle management

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:26

mistakes that you see people.

Dallas Burnett: 00:40:28

Make, that they could correct.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:32

Yeah, so we just mentioned one and that's trying

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:34

to copy other people, so your life is definitely not other people.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:41

I always, when another one of my biggest pet peeves is when.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:44

People say I'm the master of multitasking.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:47

I can get so many things done today.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:50

people also define time management.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:52

I think.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:53

Not necessarily in the correct way a lot of the time.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:40:58

when I give, like keynote speeches, I'll ask the audience, what their

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:02

definition of time management is.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:03

And some people say getting to inbox zero, and I'm like, no,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:07

this is not time management.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:09

Or, when

Dallas Burnett: 00:41:11

That's so

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:12

pre covid when everybody was working in the office.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:15

I would always get like shaving five minutes off of my daily commute

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:19

and I'm like, no, it's still not

Dallas Burnett: 00:41:21

Uh.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:22

time management isn't necessarily about how

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:25

much you can fit in the day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:27

It's about, again, like the quality of.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:30

Things that you are fitting in the day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:33

and I get pushback on that too because people say I don't run my own business.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:36

I work for somebody else and my tasks are assigned to me.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:41

same with me, I do run my own business, but I have clients,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:44

I have very, pushy clients.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:46

So I will set my day, I will set my day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:52

On, these are the things I wanna get done, and some days I don't get those done.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:41:57

But again, going back and does that mean I'm bad at time management?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:00

No, not necessarily.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:02

but it's going back to have I lived.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:04

The day that I wanna live, have I worked incredibly hard for my goal

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:09

or my end goal as hard as I can.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:12

Yes.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:12

have I been able to surround myself with somebody that I love and care about,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:16

even if sometimes it's just my cat.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:19

Yes, I can.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:20

so whatever those like really like non negotiables are, even if you can get like

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:25

a quick moment in throughout the day.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:27

so I think like red, being able to redefine time management,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:31

so not, multitasking.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:33

again, a lot of people think that they're these masters of multitaskers, but there

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:37

really is no such thing as multitasking.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:40

The human brain can't think of more than one thing at a time anyway.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:45

So you are actually contact switching when you are multitasking.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:49

So you're actually wasting time and you're making yourself exhausted.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:53

So you have these like business owners who are, trying to do this and then

Tarra Stubbins: 00:42:57

going over here and doing this and then taking a meeting and answering calls.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:00

And at the end of the day, like if you think about what did I actually do?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:05

It's actually hard to say I actually accomplished this.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:10

'cause you're all over the place.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:12

Yeah.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:12

So that's.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:14

It's definitely something that, I think people can, redefine time management and,

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:20

make sure that you're not multitasking, set goals that are, and, routines or

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:25

whatever it is that are you and your own.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:28

So people will always ask me like, what I think about affirmations

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:32

and I think that they're great.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:33

If you want to yell affirmations or say affirmations to yourself to

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:37

get you motivated and to get you to do those tasks, then please do.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:41

I'm not anyone to sit here and say they don't work, if you wanna power pose in

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:46

front of the mirror every morning to get yourself, Whatever, it's, do it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:51

If you wanna paint your hotel.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:53

Yeah.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:53

If you wanna point your hotel rooms beige please, or your room's

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:57

beige, please go ahead and do it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:43:59

if that's what motivates you to get the job done.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:44:02

There shouldn't be any of Tara says you shouldn't, have affirmations or Mick.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:44:07

Jagger doesn't do affirmation, so I'm not going to, it's all about what can

Tarra Stubbins: 00:44:11

motivate you to achieve the next step.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:14

Man, this is so good.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:17

Oh, you are killing it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:19

I love it.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:19

I want to go to back to what you were saying about time management

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:23

and redefining it, because I think time management in so many

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:26

contexts is defined on how you can better, it's like Tetris, right?

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:30

It's almost like you're like, how can I fit these blocks together better so

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:34

that I could get more blocks on a page?

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:36

And it's not NN not exactly.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:38

That's not, because the point is you could get twice as many blocks on

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:42

the page and get half as much done.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:44

That's worth doing.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:45

And I think what I love about what you're saying in redefining our.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:49

Perspective on managing our time is it really comes back

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:53

to your, purpose and priority.

Dallas Burnett: 00:44:56

like, why am I doing what I'm doing and what are the most important

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:00

things that need to get done so that I'm moving towards that goal or that

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:05

creating the life that I wanna have?

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:07

And I think that then you can actually get less.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:10

Quote unquote Tetris blocks on your, on your board.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:13

But the ones that do really are meaningful and are more weighty, I think when you get

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:18

to the end of the day and you feel like, man, this is a day that's just feels good.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:22

It's just a lot of meaning and purpose.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:23

There's And I love how you redefine that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:26

And I loved how you talk about switching too.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:28

I think that's a big thing.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:29

I really do.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:30

I think it's a fallacy of modern culture that we think that is, it's almost like

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:34

everything has to be better, faster, quicker, squeeze more in, hurry.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:38

And that means we have to be able to multitask.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:40

And it's just like, mm, no, and you were managing like.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:43

rock stars on tour.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:44

Are you kidding me?

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:44

if there's anybody that has to handle that kind of stuff, you would've seen that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:48

So for you to come back and say, this is what I've learned that's counterintuitive.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:52

you would think that I'm the best multitasker in the world.

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:55

I was able to, be on tour with the Rolling Stones and you're like,

Dallas Burnett: 00:45:59

no, , I just appreciate your time and spending time and giving your, Just

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:03

really a lot of wisdom and insight.

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:05

Tell us a little bit about your current company.

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:07

So this is your second company that you started, so you've done pretty good

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:10

for not having any business experience.

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:11

You're on your second business.

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:14

tell us a little bit about your company now and how people can

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:17

get in touch with you if they like what your company's doing, or they

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:20

want to, they want to contact you for keynote or anything like that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:22

How can people get in touch with you?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:24

Yeah, so take it easy.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:26

Group.com.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:27

There's contact forms and I'm on social Taurus time.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:32

everywhere and Tara Stubbins on LinkedIn as well.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:35

you can Google me if I have an interesting spelling name so you can find me as well.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:39

Tara with two R's.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:40

but yeah, no, I just wanna make sure that everyone knows that

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:44

I am extremely passionate about helping others achieve their goals.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:49

So it wasn't something that I had when I had this random

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:54

aha moment, with toothbrush.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:56

I had a goal,

Dallas Burnett: 00:46:58

Yeah.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:46:58

I just didn't know what to do with it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:00

And I'm a huge believer in anybody can achieve their goals no matter what stage

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:05

you are in life, what age you are, how much money you have, what your history

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:11

as, really any, your, physical, appearance and what you can do, anybody can, achieve.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:19

goals that they set out to do.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:21

And it really is just a few simple steps of, creating your own, motivation

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:27

and really that self-discipline.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:29

And I like to have fun, and share those kind of celebrity stories

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:32

of, what I've learned about how they have become a success.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:35

But, yeah, that's just my biggest mission in life is really being able

Tarra Stubbins: 00:47:39

to help others achieve their goals, just like I've been able to do.

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:43

Oh, that's wonderful.

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:45

That's wonderful.

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:46

And that's exactly why we had you on the last 10%, and that's exactly why I know

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:50

all the listeners just have had the best time listen and absorbing all the wisdom

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:55

that you've been sharing with us today.

Dallas Burnett: 00:47:56

Now, we always in the show by asking our guest if there was someone they

Dallas Burnett: 00:48:02

would like to hear on the last 10%.

Dallas Burnett: 00:48:05

So it could be somebody you know, it could be somebody famous.

Dallas Burnett: 00:48:09

You can, since you know famous people, it might be both, but is there anybody that

Dallas Burnett: 00:48:15

you would like to hear on the last 10%?

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:19

I am probably a lot of your listeners are on

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:23

the Hormozy train these days.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:26

Alex and his wife Leila, I believe that they are really genuine, people I've had

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:33

the opportunity to meet them very quickly.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:35

but I believe that they are on the right track, and I really

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:39

love that they share a lot of what goes right and what goes wrong.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:44

and they're not really trying to, fake that they live this

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:48

big, elaborate, wonderful life.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:51

And again, they have that same mission of, anyone can achieve their goals.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:55

And it is, a simple process if you follow through it.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:48:58

So either of them I think would be an awesome, next podcast for you.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:03

Oh, okay.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:04

All right.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:04

We'll have to, we'll have to reach out and see if we can, we can get

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:07

an introduction to the Hermoses.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:09

that's a good, nobody's said that yet.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:10

I like that.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:11

That would be a good one.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:12

That would, we would enjoy that interview.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:13

thank you again, Tara for being on the show the last 10%, and thank you

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:17

for all your wisdom and thank you.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:18

Thank you for your just great advice and I know that in 2024 it's gonna be very

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:23

impactful for our listeners and leaders.

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:25

And you guys check her out in the show notes and we will, we'll see if we

Dallas Burnett: 00:49:29

can have you back on again sometime.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:49:31

I would love that.

Tarra Stubbins: 00:49:32

Thank you so much.