Dallas Burnett | Leadership Gaps - Sharing an exciting announcement and discussing excerpts from the book MOVE!

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Hey everybody.

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We have a really special episode today.

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We're gonna be going through some of the highlights of the episode So far, we

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have a huge announcement to make on the last 10% concerning Think, move, Thrive,

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and I'm gonna be sharing a personal story that I haven't shared in public.

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Told some friends, but never in public, definitely not on the air.

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You don't want to miss this episode.

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Welcome, welcome, welcome.

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This is Dallas Burnett.

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I am in Thrive Studio, sitting in my 1905 Cook Brothers Barber chair.

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And more importantly, I'm introducing a special guest today myself.

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Yes, it is a special episode.

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That I wanted to just share with all the listeners of the last 10%.

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I've been waiting to do this for a while.

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Haven't carried an episode by myself.

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We've always had guests on and I just wanted to take a minute to talk

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through some things because I know it's important to our listeners.

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And I just wanted to take some time and unpack some of really important

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messages that I've been wanting to share the entire time we've been on the air.

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And I said, Hey, there's no better time to do this.

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This doesn't mean we're changing our format.

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We've had some incredible guests the whole time we've been doing

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this and we've already got some really cool guests lined up.

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I'm so excited to be producing these podcasts because it is, we've got

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some really amazing stories coming.

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But I wanted to take this episode just to talk through some stuff.

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Number one, why did we create the last 10%?

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Why are we doing this and how do we use it?

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How as I think, move thrive.

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How do we hope that you would use the last 10%?

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Number one, we want the last 10% to be Really accessible and relevant content.

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So there's a lot of people that listen to the last 10%.

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A lot of different industries, we want it to be relevant as it relates

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to coaching, as it relates to leadership, as it relates to develop.

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And we really want to put out interesting stories because everyone loves a

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good story and we relate to people in some of the stories that we hear.

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And I think we've done a really good job of that.

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I think back just on the last few episodes, and I'm thinking in the

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Tyran story in the the Caribbean where he's, had the tragic accident and his

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quote on, resiliency and it's not putting back together what you had,

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but it's reshaping what's left me That is just a gut wrenching story.

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When we talk about Dallas Glass and he's climbing Mount Everest and he's

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guiding, and the night ice waterfalls and all the stuff that he has to figure

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out his way, through, there's just incredible stories, but we're pulling

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out nuggets on each of those stories of things and mindsets and techniques

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and things that we can use hopefully in our own daily walk, in our own daily.

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and that's the last point.

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We want usable content, so it's just not accessible content and relevant.

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We want to have produced content with the last 10% that you can use.

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Now, how do you use podcast content?

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Great question.

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So glad you asked.

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I was just talking to a banker the other day who is a listener of the last 10%.

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He shared with me, hadn't seen him in a long time, and he stopped me and said,

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Hey, look, I just wanna tell you this.

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I was listening to an episode the other day and it was actually Dr.

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Mo.

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And Dr.

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Mo was talking about self-talk and he said, I have an employee that.

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Struggles with this and we've had conversations about this and I,

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when I heard the episode, I was like, Man, this is my team member.

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She could really use this.

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There's some great content in this.

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So he shared that episode with her and that is a great example of how we would

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hope as a leader, if you're a leader listening to the last 10% that you would.

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This podcast, obviously, we want you to take it in and we want you to

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digest and marinate in the wonderful goodness of all the stories and all

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the great content that we produce.

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But at the same time, we want you to feel the desire to share

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this with your team members.

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And if you hear something that just resonates with you, then

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don't be afraid to push it out there and say, Hey, check this out.

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That's the kind of content we want to produce.

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We wanna produce content that's got great storylines and also

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is usable that you can share.

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So if you're coaching a team, If you're leading a team member or if you have a

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boss that you feel like could benefit from the content or a manager that you

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could benefit from the content, share it.

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Because we want to generate that for everybody so that we can help

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move the needle in your team's performance, in your personal

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performance mindsets and those sorts of.

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So then that's how we used the last 10 cent and why we created it.

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So we really want it to be an actionable podcast.

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So you'll hear me as we go through these episodes.

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I'm trying to pull out some of the action items cuz we don't want to

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get those, we don't wanna lose those pieces in the stories that we tell.

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When I'm thinking back on the episode, some of my, favorite

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quotes, quotable quotes, we had, Chili was the ultra-marathon

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runner and he made a comment that emotions make terrible leaders.

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I thought that was fantastic insight.

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I love Dr.

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Mo and the sports psychologist that was the golf coach.

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And he talked a lot about self-talk, but one of the things that he said also beyond

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self-talk was, If you're doing something, you've got a job, you've probably got

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three things that you know that really to be successful at whatever job you're

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doing, you've gotta do with excellence.

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World class, if you wanna be successful at just three things.

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And I thought that was so true.

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And so if you're going through a situation, you're leading a team, what

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are the things that you need to be doing with excellence to lead that team?

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Dallas's glass.

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Ooh.

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Leading through your team.

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Speaking of teams, I thought the comment of him leaving base camp

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and spending about 15 minutes to 20 minutes with each team member as they

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climbed in the next base camp was gold.

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That was just the best word picture of how he described leading through your team.

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And so those are some things that just stood out with me along with

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lots of other stories that we've had.

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We've had some great guests on.

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We want to also talk about a big announcement and I don't know, I

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wanna present this well, I wanted to take some things that I've learned

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and we have learned to think, move, thrive as we've been creating content

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over the last year or three years.

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And as we've been creating.

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Leadership, experiential leadership retreats, or summits or boot camps,

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. I've been able to interact with a lot of different people in these environments

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and see how they digest content.

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One of the things that.

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I did in 2018 was came out with the book Move and if you love

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leadership books, and if you're like me, I love reading hardbacks.

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I'm old school.

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I don't do the Kindle, so don't be hating on me if you like Kindle.

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I'm not hating on Kendall.

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It's just me personally.

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I like a good hardback book.

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I wrote Move for.

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Leaders and coaches and individuals, mainly that was were either going through

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some type of transition or coaching teams or people going through some type

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of transition and needed some language that they could wrap around that.

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So it's definitely a leadership and coaching book, but it

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is more for people who love leadership and coaching books and.

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If that is something that lights your fire, then you should get it and we'll

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put it in the show notes in case you didn't know that we had a book out.

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But after that, and we've talked and I've, we've put together all kinds of retreats.

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What I realized was at a lot of these retreats there's some

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people that like reading leadership books and other people that don't.

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They may be more, fictional readers and, or they may not read, They may

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listen to audio books or podcasts.

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They just, there's a lot of different ways that people are digesting content now.

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And another thing that I've learned is that some of the books That were , on

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my bookshelf that I had bought long ago that I have a lot of respect for.

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They're so long or.

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There's so much good information in those books that people would not finish

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them or would feel intimidated by them.

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And so what we have done and what we are doing is we are creating,

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and we'll be publishing a new book.

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At the end of this year, or the first of 2023.

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So we haven't set the release date yet.

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I've not put it out anywhere on any social media.

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I've not put it out on the website or anything.

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You've heard it here first.

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But we do have a book that is set to be released at the end of this year.

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I'm not even gonna share the name of it yet.

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But we'll be sharing more information in the coming weeks

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and we're really excited about it.

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It's a great story, but it's all about how you create culture and lead teams

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and people, I am super pumped about it.

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Spent a lot of effort and time on it and and still going through all the

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process and getting all the details, finalized for the release, but we're

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so excited about that, so stay tuned because we'll be coming out with that.

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Secondly, another announcement that's just as big , is that

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we have just come out with.

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We are calling a self-awareness guided journal.

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Now, we haven't put it on the website yet, we just got the first shipment in.

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It's a limited supply right now.

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And so we're gonna be putting some up on the website for sales soon and

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or Amazon, we may put some on Amazon.

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We don't know yet, we're going to make that decision in the next few weeks.

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And so you should in the next couple weeks see those come out.

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So I wanna talk.

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The listeners of the last 10% and just share some of my stories and

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periodically I want to share some stories.

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Relate to leadership, relate to growth mindset coaching, and just pull back

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to curtain a little bit and share some personal stories that I've experienced

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and lessons that I've learned as well, because I wanna bring in all kind of

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guests that we get just this, diverse experience and diverse perspectives and

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mindsets, but also want to share some from my side and perspective as well.

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When I was in college, I worked at a retreat center on the East coast and

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the retreat center had youth, groups that would come in all summer long.

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And this retreat center was started for underprivileged kids.

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They had, orphanages and children's homes that would come down and these kids would

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be able to come to the ocean and they've never seen the ocean for the first time.

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And it.

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A magical experience to be able to see a kid's excitement that they

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may be a teenager and they've never seen the ocean for the first time.

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And to be able to experience that with them and have fun with them and just

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just show them that you care and you're so excited that you could be in that

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moment, Just a really special opportunity.

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Now I lived in an apartment on this retreat center with 12 other college

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dudes, so it wasn't the best smelling apartment, and it wasn't the cleanest

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place, but it was one row off the beach.

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And so you cannot beat that for a summer job.

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It was spectacular.

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We got paid peanuts, but we got a lot of free spaghetti

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and hot dogs from the group.

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So by the time the summer was over, I was so sick and tired of

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eating spaghetti and hot dogs.

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It was a really good experience.

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Now, one day while I was off, I decided I was gonna go out and do what I did in

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most days that I was off, which was go and either sit and read on the beach or go

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and get in the water and ride the waves.

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And so I'd walked out to the beach and one of the groups were out at the beach.

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In fact, they were just getting out.

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They had some teenagers and young kids in the water with the chaperones.

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And they were all coming outta the.

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And as they were coming out, they were drying off and they had this

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other game set up on the sand and they knew me because I was, working with

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them that week and was on the staff.

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And so they came and some of the leaders said, Hey would you do us a favor?

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Are you going out to the ocean?

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I said, Sure.

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They said, There's just.

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One young lady, she's 10 or 11 years old, she just didn't

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come in with everybody else.

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Can you just go out there?

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Can you go tell her to come in cuz we're about to play this game.

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We don't want her hanging out in the ocean and miss this fun, this new game.

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I said, Sure, absolutely.

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I'll go tell her.

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And.

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I started walking out into the ocean and immediately when I hit the ocean

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and when you spend a lot of time on the ocean, you just kinda get to know the

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currents and what it feels like and when I hit the ocean, I could automatically

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feel like this is a tremendous.

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Under to wasn't a rip tide, but it was definitely a very strong current in

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the ocean, very atypical for the day.

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And it was very choppy water.

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It was a little breezy, which made it hard to hear cuz there all the winds blowing

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and there's, the water's real choppy.

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And so I start making it out.

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And about the time I got not quite waste deep in the water, I realized this

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young lady was not, Doing very well.

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She was actually not trying to stay out in the water.

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She was trying to get out of the water and was having a hard time.

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And I could tell she was struggling to, to swim.

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She would, was trying, she was, she started saying help, but she was not loud

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enough to overcome all the ocean sounds.

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And it was, the tide was, further out.

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So the group, the youth group was up at the beach and so I just.

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Sped up my approach quite dramatically when I noticed this.

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Can you go into life lifeguard mode?

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I was not a lifeguard at the beach.

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There was actually no lifeguards on this particular beach in that year.

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I was a lifeguard at the pool.

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And so I was like, It's time to go.

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And I took off.

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I had.

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Life raft or anything like that.

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It's just, you know me going to get this young lady.

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And so I swim out and I get to her and she's just flailing at this time.

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It's like, on tv.

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She's not doing what she's sucking in water.

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And so the first thing I do is try to calm her down and I just said, Lean on me.

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And I put my arm under her arms and started to swim back.

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What.

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Failed to realize was how strong the current was and how much

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it was pushing out, and that we were really behind the breakers.

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So there was no forward push for us.

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And so I was, had one hand because she was not listening.

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She's panicking.

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She's still panicking.

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She's flailing.

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Even though I've got her, she feels like she's got to keep

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kicking and trying to, help out.

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And I was just like, Hey look, just give it a break cuz it's harder for

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me to, hold you while you're kicking and screwing and get you back than

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it is if you just, remain calm.

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And so we kept struggling against the water and really against each other.

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And finally she calmed down.

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But I was getting more and more tired every just every few seconds

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cuz I'm pushing with everything I've got and I'm not making any progress.

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Now we're out at this time, we've actually moved backwards.

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We're out in water that I can't touch the ground.

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It's over my head and we're just swimming now.

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I had been trained, as a lifeguard.

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At the retreat center and at the beach, you know about rip, rip currents and

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the biggest thing with rip current is you just let it take you out.

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It pushes you down the beach and then as it, lightens up, you just come on a shore.

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Now I knew that this wasn't a rip.

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Tied or rip current, but it was really close and it was choppy enough and windy

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enough where we were not going to, I was not definitely with a young lady on

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under one of my arms that was kicking and flailing, going to pull her in against

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this current, but, Despite the training and the knowledge that I had on how to

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better handle the situation, it'd been better just to, , lay on our backs and

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just take it easy and just float down the beach a little bit and come in.

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I was 19 and she was in trouble and the shore was just so close.

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It was just so close, like I could see it.

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It was right there.

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And I'll never forget it because everybody was engrossed in the game

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on the beach and I could see 'em.

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The wind was going, the waves were crashing.

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They could not hear me.

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I couldn't even hardly get a breath to yell.

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They couldn't hear her.

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And I'm like, This is it.

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We're gonna drown cuz I'm not gonna let go of her.

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We're gonna drown right in front of all these people.

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They're not even gonna.

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And so it was a really sober thought that washed over me as a 19 year

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old, and I remember just feeling completely exhausted and I was I was.

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You're just going through like, All right, what's my options here?

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And about that time, There was these three massive waves that came and they broke way

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behind where the waves had been breaking and they want, The first one caught me

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really bad off garden, so we both just ate the water and I was like, Oh my gosh, what

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in the world it, can it get any worse?

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But what I realized was it moved us just a few feet forward.

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And so then I was like, I saw another one kind of out in my, peripheral comment.

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I was like, Okay, look, this is our chance.

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So I started just, swimming as hard as I could.

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One last push to try to get it, and it moved us a little bit more.

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And then the last of the three I just dropped down and I went underwater and

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just tried to just throw her forward to try to see if she could catch the wave.

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And so I went underwater and just threw her with the wave and it worked

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and she made it just a few more feet and I was able to come back up.

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Now that I didn't have her on my back, she's still sputtering and swimming, but

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she's still at least a little bit closer.

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When I got to swim towards her, I could get my footing again and.

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And then we were able to make our way into the shore.

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Still took us a while to get in and, we hit the beach and here

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she goes and runs up to the, the group of her friends and counselors

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like,

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nothing's happened.

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And I'm like, on my knees in the surf.

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Just, I was just done, I was so shaken up, I was exhausted and I just felt so.

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Inadequate in that moment.

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I had felt, I just, there was, but I was so thankful and grateful that we were

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alive, that we didn't drown right there.

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And that, I could just see it now, 19 year old lifeguard, drown, saving

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young woman on the East coast.

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It's are you kidding me?

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But it was a really, an interesting experience and for me, it showed me,

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the value of coaching and the value of mentorship and the value of growth and

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development because it was very clear that there was a gap that needed to be

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traversed for me and that young lady, and there was only so much that I could.

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I needed some help.

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Now, in that moment, I felt it was a, the hand of providence that really

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boosted me up on that one because I had no inner, I had no ability

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to overcome the, the environment that I was in on my own strength.

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And so I needed some help and the girl needed some help.

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She couldn't have, she couldn't have made it with those three waves.

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She was already sputtering before I got out there.

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And so what I did for her was I went, And found her where she was and took

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it upon myself to be responsible to close that, help her close that gap.

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She had to do some work, she had taken on some water, but we were gonna go and

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we were gonna, we were gonna close that gap together and I think move thrive.

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That is exactly what we see and what we would say a coach is.

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And we like defining coaches more broadly.

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Like we say, leader, coach If you are leading people, it doesn't matter

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if you're leading people on a team.

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It doesn't matter if you're a business owner leading an organization, if you

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are a mom or dad leading your kids, you are closing gaps constantly,

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which makes you not only a leader, but it also makes you a coach.

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Coaches close gaps, and they help others close gap.

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And when we talk about gaps let's talk about that because gaps for me

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when I'm in, out in the water and I'm looking across this ocean this, all the

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white foam and all the waves breaking.

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I'm just seeing.

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It's just a lot of tension cuz I, I, it's not right.

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I should, we shouldn't be here right now.

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We're in this awkward space.

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I feel very uncomfortable.

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I've got this girl, she's going beco trying to paddle and she's

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not doing too good of a job.

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And so this is just, this tension and a gap is also the, just the distance between

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where you are and where you want to be, where you are to where you wanna be.

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And so I knew the right thing to.

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I knew the right thing was to not work so hard, not have to struggle

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and let the tide just take us down a little bit more, and then we could

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get closer to shore and come out.

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But knowing wasn't doing, knowing wasn't doing.

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So my gap was, the knowing doing gap.

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Her gap was a physical gap.

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She just couldn't, she wasn't a very good swimmer.

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She got in a bad spot and she was off the shore too far.

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So her gap was that, my gap was I was a good swimmer.

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I could have easily swim out there and swim back, but not with her on my back.

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And so it was a knowing, doing gap.

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I knew what to do and I wasn't doing.

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Now there's four gaps that we talk about in the book move.

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There's a gap in awareness, There's a gap in knowledge, a gap in

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capability, and a gap in courage.

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Now, there's lots of other gaps, and a gap is just the space between

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where you are and where you wanna be.

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These are just four big ones that we pulled out to go through in move

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to talk about what gaps are and how they manifest themselves in life.

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Gap in awareness.

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For me, a gap in awareness in leadership is it's really

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hard to traverse as a leader.

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Increasing your self awareness is a difficult task.

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It's very difficult because you're having to get outside of yourself

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and then look at yourself and say, Hey, what do I not know?

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By definition, you, if you lack that awareness, You can't see it

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cuz it's yourself and you are.

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It's just, it's a loop.

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So you need some help on that.

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Number one, that's where an executive coach can help you a lot.

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We think that at think, move, thrive.

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We think that self awareness honestly is a cornerstone of leadership.

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If you are a leader, you should be doing things that would help increase

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your self awareness cuz that will absolutely make you a better leader.

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Take an assessment.

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That's a huge thing.

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We love the Enneagram, but there's lots of Great assessment Disc and

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Myers Briggs and standout and strengths finder and all these great assessments.

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Find one or two or five or 10.

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I've taken 'em, almost goodness gracious, I don't even know how

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many I've taken, but it's great because they each have their own.

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Their own kind of frame, their own perspective of how they look at you and

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as you go through that, and as you take those, it'll give you some great insights.

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So please take an assessment or two or 10 and also, Take some time to reflect.

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If you're leadership, you've got a gap in awareness.

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One of the things that you need to be doing is reflecting, just

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spend just a few minutes reflecting on some valuable questions.

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We have the one on one app, and part of that app is helping people that

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are getting coached to have just 10 minutes to answer some really.

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Really insightful questions and if they can spend that 10 minutes, we've had

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some crazy stories about what's happened when people take just a few minutes to

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reflect on some really great questions.

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Also if you.

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Are not being coached and you don't have the app or not going through the coaching

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system and you haven't taken it, or maybe you've already taken some assessments.

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That's another reason we did the guided journal, The self-awareness guided journal

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specifically was just to help people.

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If you have some time in the morning and you have some

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moments before you go to work.

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A quiet time.

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Quiet space.

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It's a.

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It's a great opportunity for you to get out that self-awareness guide journal.

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Ask a few great questions, think through 'em, reflect on 'em,

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write down and journal some about it and increase your awareness.

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Gap in knowledge, gap in capability.

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These are pretty self-explanatory.

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We can overcome those by going and getting more information or delegating

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to someone who has more information.

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But those are pretty, pretty straight.

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I think that a gap encourag to when you're in a leadership position.

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There's been so many times I've come into an organization and the right decision.

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Is so obvious.

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It is so obvious.

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I was actually talking to a turnaround expert, a CEO in Atlanta years ago,

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and I was interviewing him from nba and I was like, Hey, tell me your biggest

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thing that you like when you go into these massive companies and you're

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tournament around, what do you do first?

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Cuz this is like this a hundred million dollar.

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Company that's just gone bankrupt.

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And they have they're outta money.

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What do you do?

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Cuz you're the guy they hire to bring in and turn around.

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What do you do?

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And he looked at me and he said there's one thing I do always

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before I do anything else.

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I was like, What is that?

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He said I go into these companies and I find the pet project.

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I said, what does that even mean?

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What are you talking about?

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He said the CEO that left was fired usually.

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When the company is just completely bankrupt in that situation, you have

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a CEO that comes in and he has a pet project and he started something and

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is just bleeding out in the company.

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It's just costing tons of money as generating nothing.

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But he can't, or she can't let it go.

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They can't get past it.

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, because if they do, it might look bad on them.

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They might be seen as a failure in that they, and or they just love

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it, they love that, whatever it is.

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And he goes, So the first thing I do is I go in, find the pet project

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and I kill it, and I get it out and it's, and I said how do you know?

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How to find that?

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He goes, Oh, it's obvious.

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I'm like, It's obvious to you.

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And you walk in and it's not obvious to him.

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He goes, No, they don't want to get rid of it.

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And so there's a piece to that.

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There's a gap and courage.

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It might be it might be stepping out and having a critical conversation

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with one of your team members.

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It might be having to have a crucial conversation that you gotta let

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somebody go that just doesn't fit the culture, especially if you've coached

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'em and they're just not responding.

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And.

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As a leader, you've got to have the courage to do that.

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And some of the things that we've done and been a part over the years has just been

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helping empower leaders to take courage, to do great things, whether that's start

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a new innovative line and launch a new product, or whether that's to go into a

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team and say, Look, this person is toxic.

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They've been toxic.

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Everybody knows they're toxic.

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They haven't changed.

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You've given 'em multiple opportunities.

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It's time to have courage to let them.

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And close that gap.

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Encourage.

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So that's just four things I wanted to lay out as it relates

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to gaps that are in the book move.

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So if you, if those are, if that's some topics you like, we'll be covering

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some more information outta move.

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But I want to periodically have a coach's corner and talk through that.

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And just wanted to take some time today to share.

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What's going on this past summer when we've gone through all

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the episodes that we've done.

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We just started in March and it has been incredible the listenership

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of Think, Move, Thrive, and the last 10% I mean, I am blown away.

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It was like in July and we had.

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Ton of people all over the world start listening to the podcast.

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I was not expecting that, and it came fairly quickly.

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And so we continue to gain new listeners every single episode.

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Every single episode.

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And so we're excited about this fall.

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We've got some cool episodes planned.

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We've got some cool guests coming, and we're just pumped.

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